Sunday, September 10, 2006

What to do with a screaming child?

Well, although she looks angelic in photos, I am at my wit's end with Romily at the moment. She screams. Squeals. Whatever you want to call it. At the top of her lungs. A real ear-splitter. It gives me an instant headache and sets my jaw. I cannot stand it and there is nothing I can do about it. I am not going to smack her when she screams, as that would just make it worse. I'd feel guilty and she'd think hurting someone is the right thing to do. But oh my god I find it impossible to cope with. I try to be mature about it and shut it out, but it's like a knife through my brain.

I took her out of the house this morning, as she doesn't seem to do it much when we're out and about, but of couse today was different - she screamed a fair bit when we were out too. She unfortunately fell asleep in the car and had a grand total of 7 minutes sleep. I tried to put her down this afternoon, but she just won't sleep. I can't leave her in the cot either, as she just gets hysterical and screams and screams and screams - she would do it for over an hour. She is stubborn as hell. So that's it for today. Seven minutes of sleep is not enough for a 1 year old. The rest of the day is going to be horrible. Fortunately Carl is in charge of Romily this afternoon.

The screaming started when I went back to work. I realise it's what they call separation anxiety and that she's unhappy with me for not being here, but I find it so hard to deal with on the weekends that I'm looking forward to going back to work on Mondays. I do not like feeling this way and I find it very upsetting.

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On a happier note, I have done quite a bit of machine quilting on her cot quilt. Now comes the 'by hand' bit. I've got a good idea of how I want to do it, so now it's just a matter of getting organised so I have it all ready to go in front of the telly tonight as soon as Romily is asleep in bed.

I also discovered a new patchwork shop in Canberra yesterday - it's massive! I knew the shop was there, but I always thought it was quite small and pokey, so I hadn't been in. I popped in yesterday and could not believe their range of fabrics! And they are a bit cheaper than the other shop I frequent. Too bad they're on the other side of town! I might have to make the pilgrimage a bit more often now though :)

I bought some stretchy printed fabric today - I'm going to make Romily some pyjamas. She's grown out of her sleepsuits (all-in-ones with feet), and they don't seem to come in bigger sizes. So it's time for big girl PJs!

4 comments:

joyce said...

Kids go thrgough stages and you think now that the screaming will never stop but suddenly she will be grown up and away from home and you won't even remember the screaming but just the great times. Certainly, smacking her would be the worst thing to do. Maybe a good set of earplugs?? Does she do it with her dad or just you? One of my granddaughters did it with her mother only. I think the separation thing is the cause but what can you do. It will probably get better quite quickly. (Easy for me to say from teh other side of the world, lol.)

Judy said...

I'm with Joyce..on the complete opposite of the world! I'll tell you 2 tricks that my moyher used on my sis and my sis used on her kids. Me? I used the fabulous trick of saying soo long as they were not my kids and walking out the door, but that's a whole other topic!

My big sis used to scream and then hold her breath until she dang near passed out. The doctor told my mother to throw a smallish glass of water in her face. It sounds horrid but she would pass out...seriously. It stopped her cold in her tracks. My sister herself never used the water, but when my neices would scream non stop she would get right in their face and take a big breath of air and then quickly blow it right in her face. They would stop immediately. It sounds horrible, but after a few times they just stopped because they didn't like it. I'm not saying use either one, it's just what my family did a few times.

I'm sure it's just the seperation thing. You were always there and now you aren't as much, but she will eventually get used to it realize that you always come home and you are there on the weekends.

dirtylittleslurry said...

i have a two and a half year old and he screams. you know what works? just put the music on loud enough that you can't hear her screaming. then sit back with a tall refreshing glass of mother's little helper a.k.a. gin and tonic and let the little angel scream her brains out as you bop your head to Bob Marley or Metallica...
hehe...
also sometimes a ghetto blaster in her bedroom near the cot playing some nice music (my son liked Kasey Chambers and a compilation of traditional bands from Vanuatu!) can help them relax in the cot and take their mind off things...
cheers
carm
(Joyce's daughter if you are wondering how I got here...!)

Dianne said...

Hi, Lily,

I'm moving to the Southern Highlands next month. Can you share the patchwork shop in Canberra? I'd love to make a trip there, once we're settled...